By Emem Everest
Last night, my daughter walked into my room and casually asked, “Mummy, how old are you?” I replied, “43, why are you asking?” And she said, “Nothing. I was just thinking about it, and thought you are 44.”
This morning, I find myself thinking about the mixed emotions that being in our 40s bring. For many women, it’s a time of reflection, growth, and newfound confidence which allows them to reinvent themselves. At this stage, we are embracing our true selves, we are more comfortable in our own skins, we are finding joy in our passions, and most importantly, celebrating the journey that has brought us here.
We are using the experiences from the past and aspirations for the future to birth a better version of ourselves. Join me as I look into the empowering aspects of life for women over 40, why this chapter is one of the most exciting yet and why we should embrace it with pride.
1. Wisdom and Experience
For 40 years, it will be assumed that we’ve accumulated a lot of knowledge and life experiences. We’ve faced challenges, celebrated victories, and learned countless lessons along the way. This wisdom helps us to approach life with a deeper understanding and a better perspective. We are equipped to make informed decisions, and continue growing both personally and professionally.
2. Confidence
Personally, one of the most remarkable aspects of being a woman in my 40s is the confidence that comes with it! We’ve had decades to understand who we are, what we want, and what truly matters to us. This self-awareness allows us to set boundaries, pursue our dreams unapologetically, and live life on our own terms.
3. Reinventing Careers and Dreams
Many women in their 40s find this time to be perfect for career changes or pursuing passions that were previously put on hold for different reasons. Whether it’s starting a new business, going back to school, or starting a new hobby, this is a time for reinvention in all areas. I’ve gone back to school, started new businesses and generally reinvented myself in the past 3 years.
4. Relationships and Community
Relationships evolve and deepen as we age because we are intentional about the people in our circle. Our social circle is expanding and we are intentionally connecting with like-minded women who share our interests and values. These supportive communities like the Finewiners Network provide inspiration, encouragement, and a sense of belonging.
5. The Power of Saying No
Initially, when I started having the confidence to say no, it made me feel horrible. But now, I’ve learned the importance of prioritizing my needs and well-being. The ability to say no without guilt is a powerful tool! It allows me to focus on what truly matters and avoid unnecessary stress.
To all the amazing women in their 40s: This is your time. Embrace it. Celebrate it. Live it to the fullest.