IWD: Finewiners Network to Donate to Nyanya General Hospital

A women’s empowerment group in Abuja, Finewiners Network, has concluded plans for a medical outreach that will see its members donate medical supplies to Nyanya General Hospital in commemoration of Saturday’s International Women’s Day (IWD) celebration.
International Women’s Day (IWD), celebrated every March 8, is a global day celebrating women’s social, economic, cultural and political achievements. It also marks a call to action to accelerate women’s equality.

The group’s president, Emem Everest, said her members are celebrating the IWD at Nyanya General Hospital during which pre-natal and post-natal items, and neonatal items, would be donated and also pay the medical bills for some less privileged female patients.
Before now, the group’s president said its activities were limited to empowering market and petty traders to support their families but decided this year to also reach out to hospitals to support needy women patients.

“It is the first of its kind in our activities. Before now, we visited orphanages, and communities for outreach but decided to do something different this year. We will be going to Nyanya General Hospital to donate medication and other items needed in hospitals”, stated Emem.

“We also want to pay some hospital bills of women on admission or outpatients who are not financially buoyant. We will also give ante-natal and prenatal items to the hospital. We have started donating towards that event and our goal is to make some women happy in commemoration of International Women’s Day”.

The Network, which is in its second year and has grown from five friends of like minds to over 30 members between the ages of 35 and 40, focuses on sisterhood, to lift women to support their families.

The Network, championed by Emem who started with an NGO in 2019, is a business group where members pool resources to empower women, especially market and rural women.

“From the NGO days which have always been supported by my four friends with whom I started this Network, we have trained over 500 women. We train and support 50 women at a go and have been doing this since 2019” noted Emem who said her husband is her number one supporter.
Speaking on the idea behind the group, Emem who grew up in a communal environment in Uyo, Akwa Ibom state noted that her late father was always settling quarrels over money between husbands and wives and decided to be a blessing to her husband and the womenfolk, especially those who have nothing to do.

“My late father happened to be the family head at a time, and most of the time people do come to our compound to settle fights. And being the last born of the family, I had the opportunity of sitting down and hearing them all. And over time, I realised that the cause of the fights was money. And the issue is that either my aunties or cousins’ wives stay at home with nothing to do. The husbands were the only ones footing the bills and other responsibilities.

“And then I looked at my parents who were working and both, contributing and providing for the house. So rarely will you see them fight on issues concerning money. And since that time, as a child, I wanted to make my own money.

“And from the day I got married, I knew I had to support my husband and the house. And because I have kids and may not be able to do the 8 to 5 pm jobs and attend to the home front, I decided to do businesses I can do from the comfort of my home”.

She said Finewiners, besides being an empowerment group, is also business-oriented, making money for its members.
“We encourage members to contribute money which we pool and invest in different businesses. We do this because there are businesses, we do for which only one person can’t provide the seed money, but we can do by pooling resources together”.

Finewiners Network Marks International Women’s Day in Grand Style

The event which was held a day after the International Women’s Day proper, had women from all works of life in attendance.

In her remarks, the group’s CEO Amb. Emem Everest thanked members of the group for being hands-on and in tune with her vision, while noting that the group will do more to reach out to more women in line with the theme of this year’s International Women’s Day, ‘Inspire Inclusion.’

Speaking on the topic ‘Inspire Inclusion: Challenges and Prospects,’ Guest Speaker Sophie Ejelue, who is the Founder of PUSHFactor and Chairman of Ubuntu Tribe urged women to among other things, seek ways of self improvement and development at all times in order to get themselves ready for the much sought after inclusion.

Journaling expert Imabong Essien, advised the women to adopt Journaling as a means to self-development and awareness which will ultimately lead to better inclusiveness for the women.

Speaking on Branding, CEO Art Dynamic World Limited Tinuola Adigun urged attendees to give the best representation of themselves and their businesses at all times as a means to better inclusion in all areas of society.

The event which saw performances from Violinist Vicky Stringz and Spoken Words Artist CrossWordz, had in attendance women from various groups and organisations as a way of fostering collaboration and cooperation between women groups in the FCT.

Happy International Womens Day #IWD2024

Another 8th March is here, a day where we celebrate the incredible achievements and contributions of women around the world. Today, I especially celebrate women in rural areas for breaking barriers, challenging stereotypes, and becoming sources of inspiration in their communities.

As we honor the women who have fought for equality, justice, and human rights, I also honour those still struggling to find their voices and stand up for themselves, enduring gender based violence and stigmatization from the society.

Also, as we celebrate this year’s International Women’s Day, let us not forget that there is still work to be done to achieve true gender equality. While we continue to challenge the systems of oppression and discrimination that hold women back, women all over the would should pay attention to self development that will make us valuable when included and given a seat at the table.

We can start by inspiring inclusion among ourselves, doing away with unhealthy competitions, truly loving and supporting each other to achieve set goals. Having more collaborations among us will also make greater impact and cause bonding.

Happy International Women’s Day
#InspireInclusion
#IWD2024

HOW WOMEN CAN LEVERAGE ON EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE FOR THEIR PARENTING SKILLS

HOW WOMEN CAN LEVERAGE ON EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE FOR THEIR PARENTING SKILLS 

By Mrs. Nkoyo Ekpo

In a world where parenting advices flood our feeds and bookshelves, one often overlooked yet powerful tool stands out: Emotional Intelligence (EI).

Picture this: A mother calmly navigates a toddlers tantrums with grace, a daughter confides in her mum about teenage troubles or a grandmother impacts wisdom with a gentle touch. What is the common thread? Emotional Intelligence.

Now let’s embark on a journey of how we can uncover how women can harness their superpower to not only navigate the rollercoaster of parenthood but to thrive in it.

Women can leverage on Emotional Intelligence for their parenting skill by :

1. Self Awareness: Understanding their own emotions and reactions can help them respond more effectively to their childrens need and behaviours.

2. Self Regulation: Learning to manage their own emotions such as frustrations and stress can prevent overreacting or lashing out at their children.

3. Empathy: Developing empathy for their children’s feelings and perspectives, can strengthen the parent-child bond and foster a supportive environment.

4. Effective Communication: Using Emotional Intelligence skills to communicate openly, listen actively and validate their children’s emotions can facilitate healthy parent- child interactions.

5. Problem solving: Teaching children problem solving skills and resilience by modelling effective coping strategies and conflict resolution techniques.

6. Flexibility: Being adaptable and willingness to adjust parenting strategies based on their children’s  individual needs and developmental stages.

7. Boundaries: Setting clear and consistent boundaries with empathy and understanding can help foster a secure and nurturing environment for children to thrive.

By incorporating these EI Skills into their parenting approach, women could build stronger connections with their children and navigate the challenges of parenting with greater empathy and effectiveness.

THE REINVENTED WOMAN 2024

Finewiners Network is an initiative dedicated to celebrating the achievements of women over 40 while holding the hands of others yet to find their feet in society.

We create a platform for phenomenal women who are on a growth journey together, creating opportunities for each other, investing in each other, laughing, holding hands, winning together, and most importantly having fun through it all.

We are marking this year’s International Women’s Day by celebrating hardworking and successful women in all works of life and inspiring other women with their stories.

Theme: Inspire Inclusion: Challenges & Prospects
Date: Saturday, 9th March, 2024
Venue: Shoprite, Wuse Zone 5, Abuja, Nigeria
Time: 10am – 1pm

The event will also showcase emerging brands, Exhibition of Small Businesses, Access to Mentorship, Access to Loans & Grants.

Side attractions will include Spoken Words, Music & Comedy.

Event Registration

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BUILDING RESILIENCE DURING CHALLENGING TIMES

BUILDING RESILIENCE DURING CHALLENGING TIMES
By Nkoyo Ekpo

Building resilience during challenging times is an important skill that can help you navigate through
difficulties. Here are some steps you can take:

Cultivate a Positive Mindset:
Focus on the things you can control and try to maintain a positive outlook, even in tough situations.
Practice Self Care: Take care of your physical, mental and emotional wellbeing. This includes eating
well, sleeping, exercising and finding activities that brings you joy and relaxation.
Develop a support system: Connect with friends, family and community group. Sharing your feelings
and experience can provide emotional support and perspective.

Set Realistic Goals:
Break down larger challenges into smaller and manageable tasks. Celebrate your achievements, no
matter how small.

Learn from Adversity:
Look for lessons in difficult situations. This can lead to personal growth and a
greater understanding of your own strengths and capabilities.
Practice Mindfulness and Stress Management:
Techniques like meditation, deepbreathing, mindfulness can help you stay present and reduce stress
level.

Maintain Flexibility and Adaptability:
Embrace change and be open to adjusting your plans when necessary. Being adaptable can help you
cope with unexpected challenges.

Seek Professional Help if needed:
If you are struggling with your mental health, don’t hesitate to
reach out to a therapist or counsellor for support and guidance.
Engage in activities that bring Joy:
Engage in hobbies, interests,or activities that you find fulfilling and enjoyable. This can provide a
sense of purpose and satisfaction.

Reflect and Practice Gratitude:
Take time to reflect on your experiences and find gratitude for the positive aspects of your life, even
during challenging times.

To this end, remember, building resilience is a gradual process and it’s okay to ask for help when you
need it. Keep in mind that everyone’s journey is unique, so find what works best for you.

Lisa Folawiyo | FINEWINER OF THE WEEK

Lisa Folawiyo is a Nigerian fashion designer who has a background in law, which she studied at the University of Lagos. She is celebrated for her colourful collections that fuse traditional West African fabrics with modern tailoring and beaded embellishments.

Since starting her label, Lisa Folawiyo — previously known as Jewel by Lisa — in 2005 from her home, with the support of her mother, and an initial investment of 20,000 Naira, Lisa Folawiyo has become a force to recon with and has put Nigerian designers on the international stage with several recognitions for her work.

She incorporates traditional West African textiles such as Ankara with modern tailoring techniques and emphasizes on beading and sequin trimmings.

Liza has showrooms in both Nigeria and New York and her collections are stocked in the UK, the US, South Africa and Nigeria.

In 2012, Folawiyo won the African Fashion Awards, nominated alongside Maki Oh and Kofi Ansah, two more prolific designers from the Nigerian fashion scene. Championed by Vogue Italia, Folawiyo has also partnered with L’Oréal and done a trunk show on Moda Operandi.
The Lisa Folawiyo brand has shown collections on international platforms in Lagos, Johannesburg, London, Paris, Milan and New York, as well as been featured in publications such as international editions of Vogue, The New York Times, Harper’s Bazaar and Elle. The brand counts with various diffusion lines including The J Label and Pretty Precious. The brand is stocked at Matches Fashion, Moda Operandi, Temple Muse, and several others.

Folawiyo has taken on fashion education in a bid to giving back to aspiring designers and the community at large and has done this through her collaboration with ESMOD Paris & Wazobia Academy, Nigeria; where she transfers her knowledge and skills through fashion training classes with upcoming fashion designers and fashion entrepreneurs.

*Culled from BoF

FINEWINER OF THE WEEK

Eno Essien is the Chief Executive Officer of Rheytrak Limited, a Vehicle Tracking and Recovery company licensed by the Nigerian Communications Commission (NCC), which she established fifteen years ago at the age of twenty five and with no prior work experience ever. She is the first licensed female CEO in the vehicle tracking industry in Nigeria.

Under her leadership, the company has consistently experienced steady and remarkable accomplishments and recorded an exceptionally high success rate in recovery of stolen vehicles from locations within and outside the Nigerian boundary.

A graduate of Microbiology from the University of Calabar, Eno Essien was a finalist at the first Bold Woman Award by Veuve Clicquot in Nigeria in 2022. She was recognised by The Guardian Newspaper as one of the women who made impact in 2019. She was also recognised by the Akwa Ibom State government, her home state, as an outstanding indigene in 2020.

Her commitment, diligence, and dedication to a job she absolutely loves, has earned her several awards locally and internationally. She has also graced the cover of several newspapers and magazines and has spoken at several conferences locally and internationally.

Eno Essien, a breast cancer survivor, rang the closing bell at the Nigerian Stock Exchange in commemoration of World Cancer Day in February 2020. In 1990 her father rang the closing bell at the Nigerian Stock Exchange – NSE, making history as the first father and daughter to perform the ceremonial bell ringing in Nigeria.

NEW YEAR, NEW ME!

NEW YEAR, NEW ME!
By Emem Everest
 
What is a party or hangout without an alcoholic drink? If you’ve ever been to any of my parties you will agree that my goal is always to make sure no one remembers their last name, but it’s a new year and a new season in my life so I’m now semi #TeamNoAlcohol. Last year, I had two major embarrassing alcohol experiences, and I’ve been forced to act my age and be more responsible around alcohol this year. Don’t expect me to drink with you when next you come to my party but of course, I’m a good host so I must always provide drinks.
 
For now, finding a balance hasn’t been a problem because, like most Nigerians, I’m denying the ‘flesh’ of several things, including alcohol. But the 21-day fasting period is slowly coming to an end (this fasting is a topic for another day), and I’m beginning to think about my new lifestyle plan. Will finding a healthy balance not be a challenge? Please avoid my post if you are #TeamOnlyWater. I personally believe people who drink only water from January to December…I reserve my comment. I can’t drink just water and stay off soda too, I will have to be drinking green tea and lemon water like a fish.
 
Anyways, back to our gist, on most people’s ‘new year, new me list’ is boldly written, ‘NO ALCOHOL’, and I would love to be one of them knowing that as I grow older, I need to prioritize my well-being and strive for healthier choices… But I don’t know how long it will last so let me work on just reducing my intake for now. First, I won’t drink without company. Secondly, if I must drink alcohol in public, it must be a glass of wine or a cocktail. If I come to your house, please don’t allow the devil to use you, just give me fresh juice or water. Thank you in advance because this year, I must enjoy all the benefits of reducing alcohol consumption.
 
While I was thinking about my decision on alcohol, I heard that reducing alcohol consumption among other benefits helps in managing weight, improves physical and mental wellbeing, and saves money! Ah!!!! Imagine going to a lounge, and all you need to buy are cocktails and finger food! No whiskey, No Vodka, Nothing! I’m probably going to buy a new car this year by just reducing alcohol!
 
But seriously, at over 40, I’m no more the young university girl who could party all night and then go straight into a morning lecture the next day. Now, if I consume too much alcohol, I need at least two full days to reboot my system because it needs more time to process whatever I consume so I have to carefully make the right choices for my body. This year is all about me, it’s all about consciously making choices that will make me an all-round better person.

What is it that you have to let go of this year or at least reduce? Make that decision today because no one is coming to do it for you.

HOW ARE YOU REALLY?

HOW ARE YOU REALLY?
By Nkiru Ogbuli

I know you must have been asked how you are, severally. As Nigerians, it is a normal part of greeting. “Good morning.” “How are you?” Normal. But it has become scary for Nigerian men to ask ladies this question because when they do, it provides an opportunity to list all the problems they (ladies) have in the world. It is recipe for outright billing.

Now true confession: I’ve done this twice in my entire life. Once when a 60 something year old man, single, according to him, was looking to get married. He said he fell head over heels in love at first sight and kept calling his friends to come and meet the lady they were going to accompany him to Anambra to marry.

In fact, in one of our conversations, his exact words, “Nkiru,  come and rule my household.” Well, haven’t I always known I was destined to rule? Nkiru the ruler! One time he called and asked how I was and I said I wasn’t fine. He asked what the matter was, and I said I was broke. He told me to send my account number, that he was going to send someone to the bank the next day.

After we ended the call, I was troubled. I had done what I had never done before! I almost called him back to tell him I was joking because truth be told, I wasn’t broke. On a second thought, I was curious to see how generous he was, for claiming to want to marry someone he was older than by more than twenty years.

Ladies and gentlemen, that didn’t end well. Keep in mind that I am someone who shows deep appreciation for the littlest gift or act of kindness. I was brought up to know that nobody owes me anything in this world but when I saw that alert, my mind went to war with itself. For a man who was in the habit of bragging about buying shoes in thousand of dollars? I felt cheap!

I quickly called my cousin and told her I was going to call this man to find out where he got the idea that that was money that would solve any problems of mine and ask to return the money. Long story short, as of today, nobody is ruling anybody’s household. If you are going for a lady who can pass as your daughter, you my friend need to show working. There’s no other way to say this and I am not materialistic.

The second time was just 2 days ago. As an events’ compere, I meet a lot of big people and they keep calling. I was woken up by a call. He went, “MC, how are you?” I blurted an outright, “I am not fine sir!” “Send me your account number. This January is dry, I know.” Ah! Just ust like that? Wow! I can see why any lady would want to be asked that question then!

All jokes and stories aside now. When you ask someone how they are, do you really want to know? When someone asks how you are, do you think they really care? Anybody can gift you money with the hopes of getting something in return, if you get what I mean but do they really care?

I have a friend who would always ask how I am and I would say fine, and the discussion would continue. In the middle of the conversation, he would pause to ask, “Nkiru, how are you really?” Five, six years back, I would rant and rant and rant about how bad things were and he would give me words of encouragement. Note that to every other person, I was this beautiful On Air Personality that had it all together.

After the hangout, he would ask to pay the bills using my ATM card. He would then transfer money to my account in excess of the bills. That always went a long way for me. He still asks till today, only that when he does, I tell him how things are much better now, how things are looking up, how even though there are minor setbacks, I am positive it would only be for a short period of time.

Do you have that someone who you feel wants to know how you really are? Are you that someone to another person? Not everything is about money you know? Show genuine concern to someone today. If you are a known ‘biller’, leave that billing mentality for a few days…at least! Just call to know how they are. Pause to ask how they really are. You might be the only outlet they have.

I tell you, you are lucky if you have one person who really wants to know how you really are, not just for the sake of asking and you are doing something right if you can get someone to really open up to tell you how they really are, without looking to bill you.

That said, tell me in the comment section, how are you really?

Have a great week my people!