TO WAKE UP AT 4:30AM TO COOK OR NOT TO?

TO WAKE UP AT 4:30AM TO COOK OR NOT TO?
by Nkiru Ogbuli

I had the sweetest two months relationship in 2023. In that relationship, I felt like I was loved body, mind and soul. He worked so hard but was not getting the best when it came to meals. His house help, he had one, so I could have just chosen to cross legs, do my nails every week as he loved it…ermmm…I digress. I told him I got the food part and he really knew what I meant by that in those two months.

Now, I am someone who loves to cook. I will always find time to cook because I love good food but will never cook for fools. My special ingredient when I cook is love and so not everybody will get to taste meals I make. Apologies to one or two persons who might see this, I never cooked for you but you were no fool. It didn’t just happen.

I am also not in any position to tell any woman what to do, how to do it and when to do it in her own home. Not my call.

For me, FEMINISM is about the right to make choices. Choosing to do whatever you want to do, how you want to do it and when you want to do it, as long as it does no harm to the other person. The same choice as is available to any other human being of any gender.

When you are forced to do something, then it becomes a problem. In that problem, you also have a choice to do or not to!

I saw my own mother cook from night till morning because the fridge had to be stock for the week. Will I do same? No! Because I am not a 9-5er. Again, I love good food, I will always find time to cook but I will NEVER do an all night cooking session.

Madam cooks for her husband to take for lunch, became lazy but had to shrug off that laziness and wake up every 4:30am just because a colleague brought two spoons to work! I would to laugh but it isn’t funny. Again, it is not any business of mine but once again, it is giving the “cheap nature of men”. That even the men don’t see!

How that became a “huge” issue so much so that Government agencies that have no business meddling in petty social media trends hopped on just to get cheap accolades lends credence to how mediocre we are as a people.

We will be alright one day.

Remember not to ask me what happened to the relationship. We go again this year. When I find him, I will still not wake up by 4:30am to cook for him just because he might be stolen from me with ordinary food!